What Kind Of A Mother Are You?

I am not pointing fingers at anybody and I am not angry.

A lot of people said that there are types of mothers. Is it right? Let me give you some ideas as to what I am talking about.

Types of Mothers according to Dr. Helen Pensanti:

1. The Phantom Mom - she may be controlling, perfectionist or reactive. I think when mothers say "you are not good enough" type of statement is under this one.

2. The China Doll Mom - she is afraid of feelings, avoids strong or negative emotions, may react to anger and shame the child. Not a good thing mom.

3. The Controlling Mom - I think it is a subsidiary of being a phantom mom. She does not want a child to exhibit individuality and there will be no independence to child.

4. The Trophy Mom - I think this is another sub of phantom mom. She wants her child to be perfect, special, afraid of imperfection exposure, gets angry to a child who brings home problems.

5. THE AMERICAN EXPRESS MOM - I am not sure why it is called American Express like the credit card. This is like giving a child the idea that the child can not survive without her or vice versa. "I am your only source of love and truth" type of stuff.

Types of Mothers according to Dr. Poulter.

1. The Perfectionist Mother

2. The Unpredictable Mother

3. The "Me First" Mother

4. The "Best Friend" Mother

5. The Complete Mother - my favorite. She provides guidance and compassion to her child.


Types of Mothers according to Dr. Me (Disclaimer: I am not a doctor- these are the types of mothers according to my own experience).

1. The Affectionate Mom - who kisses, hugs, embraces you wherever or whenever.

2. The Big Mouth Mom - who says a lot of STOP!!!, NO!!!, COME HERE!!!, DO IT!!!, SHUT UP!!!...etc. She says the words very loud thinking that her child will be better. Actually, it does not make your child a better child. NO is my favorite word to say to my son and I should stop myself.

3. The Quite Mom - who does not do anything except wash your clothes, clean your room, cook for you...etc. She is not a talker. She does not get mad at you that often but when she gets mad, it is a big explosion.

4. The Hip Mom - she talks and dresses like her teen daughter. She wears sexy clothes, make up, nice tattoo, and crazy hair. She can be your bestfriend.

5. The NO TIME Mom - you do not see her. She is busy on her own world.

6. The Abusive Mom - It can be physical, verbal or mental. Mental abuse I think is when you force your child to learn something that your child is not interested in such as music, dancing or sports.

7. The "Freedom" Mom - Her child can do whatever. She does not care if her kid watches TV the whole day, eat junk foods, wear his pants low showing the boxers or wear her top so low showing their big boobs, or if she/he comes home late with their peers (unknown where they went). No disciplinary action.

8. The "Everything Perfect" Mom - Perfectionist alright!

9. "My Kind of Mom" - These are my mom and my mother-in-law. They are my kind of moms. Loving, easy to be with, like a friend, a listener, and God-fearing. We have different personalities so you kind of mom might be different than mine.

10. Mr. Mom - He is your dad but he does what moms do.

You and your mother's relationship makes you who you are right now. Do you agree with that? I think that they have something to do with your personalities and how you handle adult relationships.

This Mother's Day, whatever type of mother you have, give her some beautiful flowers to show your love. There is a one stop flower shop online available which is the 1800Flowers.com for all your needs. They have a contest going on right now where there are over $30,000 in prizes. Vote for your favorite mom in "one" of the categories.

I wish I registered my kind of moms but it is already closed for registrations. Anyway, I voted for Marlene K. from Lorain, OH. The picture captured my eyes. She appears to be a very talented mom.